The SpEd Mom's prayer.

I wrote this at the beginning of the school year in 2010.

The Special Ed Mother's Prayer:

Please, oh please let this be a good year for him.

Please let his teacher's classroom be structured, but not rigidly so,
Please let her have patience and humor, but be firm enough to set boundaries.
Please let her have the knowledge and experience that different is not wrong,
That behaviors are not meant to be disrespectful,
That hints and subtleties are not ignored, but rather missed
And that she has a little boy with a very tender heart who wants to please.
Please help her communicate with me in ways that are constructive,
That are helpful and kind,
That are seeking answers, and not blame
And that are open to our support and adaptations.
Please let the other kids realize that awkwardness is not rude, and a loyal friend lies inside.
And please, don't let others sell him short, for he is truly intelligent and a valuable teacher himself.

Please let my son have a good year, and learn the best he can.


Amen.



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  1. AnonymousApril 26, 2012 at 7:33 PM

    Joanna you are so amazingly insightful! I miss that so much. Anita

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  2. JoApril 26, 2012 at 7:34 PM

    I miss YOU!

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